Boundaries Will Bless Your Life!
I’ve been MIA and to be honest it felt great! I’ve learned so much over the last couple of months! Life has a way of interrupting your plans and making you take a moment to just breathe. You can be fully functioning yet ignoring your mental, physical and spiritual growth and that is a dangerous place to be. I was in that place and didn’t even know it. I was busy and booked yet burned out. I was laughing but ignoring the things that made me cry trying to be strong. Being strong almost killed me. When you’re strong you’re allowing your pride and ego to rule you. I no longer subscribe to that “strong women” pride that many flaunt as a badge of honor. I’m tired of going through things just to go through! I’m tired of being strong while carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. I don’t even know why the heck we think that’s a good thing! A woman’s strength should not be based on how much she can handle! We think if we carry all that crap and continue to function that we’re good. We’ve got to stop acting like we aren’t human and realize it’s okay to feel emotions.
We were created to have healthy emotions and to manage them. The problem comes when we allow ourselves to become numb to our reality and then we start living in fantasy land. This is how many women end up in cycles going through the same crap with the same man, friends and boring job. I refuse to be that woman! I have been her and I will never allow myself to lose myself in the thoughts and opinions of others. I will not allow myself to lose myself trying to be everything to everyone. I will not allow myself to be bound by people, places and things that no longer serve me. I’ve learned that boundaries will bless your life! Setting boundaries will keep you from being all over the place. I want to share three ways you can get your life and stay blessed!
- Say No and mean it!
Stop allowing people to make you feel some type of way because you said no. You don’t have to feel guilty about it or allow anyone to make you feel bad because you said no. It’s okay to say no to that event, meeting or anything else that you really don't want to do. Someone who will force you to do something you really don’t want to do does not love you. Say no and mean it!
- Peace is priceless!
Anything and I mean anything that cost your peace is way too expensive and you can not afford it! If anything is making you stress, feel horrible and not bringing peace, love or joy into your spirit it’s okay to set proper boundaries and protect your peace at all cost! Say no, delete, unfollow and block in real life!
- Explain for what?
People don’t always need a long drawn out explanation! This is your life you don’t have to explain why you chose to live life the way you are. If you are doing what God told you to do no further explanation is needed. People will place their expectations on you that they don’t even follow themselves! Do not become a slave to people’s thoughts and opinions of you! People who are master manipulators will make you feel like you must explain your every move. Don’t fall for the foolery!
Taking this break has been such a blessing to my life. I’m thankful that God slowed me down so I can fully breakdown the areas of my life where I need to grow and become better. I’m far from perfect and I mess up daily but what I know for sure is God didn’t place me on this earth to be frustrated, busted and disgusted! I’ve learned so much and the number one thing I’ve learned is how boundaries will bless your life! I’m much more clear, focused and joyful because I refuse to be a prisoner to myself or anyone else! Set some boundaries and continue to live a blessed life!