Repeat after me. No! No! No! No is a word that is so hard for many people to say and so hard for many people to understand. When you allow yourself to become a "yes" person you have no boundaries and you will eventually be burned out. There is so much power in taking complete control over your life and the best way to do that is to set proper boundaries so you can live in peace. Peace is priceless! You have to learn to protect your peace at all times! When I started saying no I realized just how bad I lacked boundaries. I was so frustrated trying to be everything to everyone while getting nothing in return. I had to make myself clear that I was no longer going to tolerate just anything. When I made the choice to say no, a lot changed. I lost people who I loved. I lost people who we're not for me. I was upset at first then I realized I needed to say no so I can see what I needed to see and move on accordingly!
Setting boundaries for your life will save your life! Unfortunately people will try to take advantage of you and unless you set some boundaries you wont notice it until it's too late. You will become worn out from lack of boundaries and when you need the favor in return and no one will be there. You can't pour from an empty cup and if you're the only one pouring who's pouring into you when you're empty? People will attempt to get you to do things that will benefit them but what about what you need and where you're trying to go? We are in a world where everyone is trying to get money but you have to know that all money isn't good money and every opportunity is not your opportunity! Being able to say no without any hesitation is such a beautiful thing! Don't feel bad about saying no to things that don't align with who you are. You have to be careful not to get out of position and get distracted by anything or anybody! While you're striving to accomplish your goals distractions will come but you have to set boundaries that will keep you focused on your end goal.
Since I've been working on my third book Broken No More I have had to say no to a lot of things that just didn't align with my goal and I didn't feel bad about it either. I didn't care who was asking if I felt I needed to say no I said no. I realized I was doing more than I wanted to do so I had to make some changes so I can stay focused on my goal. I'm thankful that I did because it opened my eyes to a few things. I learned I don't have to be everywhere doing everything. I realized I don't have to over extend myself chasing money and opportunities. I realized the importance of being still and trusting the process. I'm not sure what you need to say no to but I can say if it doesn't feel right it's probably not right for you. Take some time to set boundaries so you can remain focused and be less stressed. Never allow someone else's need to become your emergency. Say no and don't feel bad about it!