When life happens we can become surrounded by what looks like a bunch of problems we tend to forget who we are and we shrink back. When we take a step forward and get knocked back ten we tend to forget that we still have the victory and we can overcome anything life throws our way. We forget that in every test, trial, hurt, disappointment and setback we win. I don't know what you may be going through but I want to remind you that there is a winner in you! Don't you dare shrink back and live in defeat because you look around and feel like you're losing! So what the relationship didn't last, the job laid you off and you have more bills than money but guess what you still win! Winning isn't about the things you have but it's a mindset. If you choose to have a pity party about what you lost you can't pay attention to what you're gaining throughout this process. Sometimes we get caught up trying to prove to others we're "winning" by posting on social media all the things we have and how "happy" we are but can we still have a "winning" attitude when all hell is breaking loose? Are we still "winning" when we are going through or only when things are perfect?

Winning isn't what you have but who you are. You win because you know no matter what's happening in life you have absolute victory and though from the outside looking in it seems you're losing but you're not! Winning is apart of a Queens D.N.A Can God ever lose? Every battle God has complete victory and since we are his children guess what? WE HAVE VICTORY TOO!! Lately, I've had some very high mountains to climb and I know God is in the midst pushing me through. I dare not complain, I dare not live defeated but I continue to praise God in the pain and go this process knowing I have the victory! I had to remind myself that I am victorious and with God, I win! But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 15:57 KJV) I am so thankful that he has empowered us to have victory in EVERY situation but he gives it to us and doesn't force us to have it. We have a choice when problems come our way we can choose to have a pity party or rejoice in our trials because we already know the outcome!Queens aren't pitiful we are powerful! There is a winner in each of us and once you recognize that you win you won't allow your emotions to make you feel defeated. You won't run to the phone to ask others to join your pity party and complain but you will start to rejoice because you know this is just another opportunity for God to show himself to you and work in your life but you have to allow him to do so. Allow God to take care of what you can't! You do all you can do and watch him work things out! Stop worrying about who, what, when, why and how but keep praying, reading and fasting and God will work on your behalf. Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? (Matthew 6:27 NLT) The answer to that is NO!!

God is looking for someone who is open to receive from him let that person be you! For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him. Herein thou hast done foolishly: therefore from henceforth, thou shalt have wars. (2 Chronicles 16:9 KJV) So show yourself to him so he can show himself to you! If you shrink back and stop you're giving up. Queens don't quit! DO NOT QUIT! It's the enemies job to get you off course and stop your focus but you can"t allow him to have authority over you when God has given us authority over him. Behold! I have given you authority and power to trample upon serpents and scorpions, and [physical and mental strength and ability] over all the power that the enemy [possesses]; and nothing shall in any way harm you. (Luke 10:19 AMP) I don't know about you but that just got me EXCITED!!! When you find yourself feeling like it's over remember what God says about the victory we have in him! If you're trying to do it all on your own expect a lot of hurt, pain and a lot of frustration because in our own strength we fail. I can say that because I've tried it and fell flat on my face and it did not feel good at all

You don't know what people are going through, how many tears they've cried and what pain they've endured but throughout it, all God has us and reminds us that in him we win! You have to know that whatever you're in your coming out of it! It has taken me a really long time to understand this and I am so thankful that I understand it now. I was the person that quit when things got hard and I would complain about what I am going through but now I've learned to keep calm and let God handle it. I've learned to keep loving when others are hating, keep being positive when others are being negative and keep quiet unless I am speaking victory over the situation. If you're reading this and you're facing a hard situation I want to encourage you to pick up your crown! No matter what comes your way don't forget that Queen's can't lose!

Having a great support system is very important. Sometimes we try to be so strong and handle everything on our own but we are not built to be alone. It's a great feeling to be able to go to someone you trust and talk about things with. We all need someone to go to for support. I am blessed to be able to say I have amazing people in my life who support me and will be honest with me. If you find yourself not having anyone to talk to you I recommend you find an accountability partner or join The Throne Room so other women can help you when life is trying to break you down. Everyone needs someone. As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. (Proverbs 27:17 NLT) When you have real friends they become more like family and the bond becomes stronger.

Life happens and it can be difficult to go through things alone. How many people can honestly say they have true friends? When you're feeling down and out who do you call? The first person should be Jesus and you call on him with the power of prayer. The second person should be your real friend the one who will tell you not what you want to hear but what you need to hear out of nothing but love for you. It's very important to have positive, encouraging and loving people in your life. You must surround yourself with like-minded people who will help elevate you to become the best person you can be. Throughout life, you're going to need people in your life who will support you. Over time these people may change because some people come into our lives for a season but you must be open to receive the people that God is going to send into your life and learn when God is saying to let them go.

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. (Ecclesiastes: 9-12 NLT)

Ask yourself these questions about your friends.

Do they like me?

Yes. You read that right! You can't be friends with someone who wants your life! You can't have friends around you who are jealous of the life you have! So many people have friends that don't even like them! They say slick comments and put a LOL after it knowing they're not joking but throwing shade. If you feel that a friend is jealous they most likely are. Communicate and if they expose themselves as being jealous you might want to disconnect. Jealousy is not the character trait of a Queen.

Do they support me?

Do the people you call friends support you? Can you count on them to spread the word about your new project? Can you call them and get sound advice? Do they show up to the things you have going on in your life? Do they celebrate you and your accomplishments? Are they bold enough to tell you when you're slipping or just watch you fall? You have to be surrounded by people who genuinely support you and not just with words but in action. Queens support Queens!

Do they gossip about others?

This is HUGE! If that person is coming to you talking about another person they call a friend you better believe they are doing the same to you! If you can't trust that the person won't go and tell all your business you may want to reconsider that person as a friend. Queens aren't petty we are powerful! Stay away from those who are petty and always have drama going on.

When you work together with people great things can happen. If you just have one person that you can connect with that is better than being alone. Don't go through the hard times alone out of fear or pride. Pride will cause all things to fail so find someone who you can trust. Within the last year, my circle has changed drastically and I'm so thankful for the beautiful, smart, talented go-getters that God has surrounded me with. These women have become more like sisters and I appreciate all of them! It's a great feeling when you are surrounded by people who push you to be the best that you can be. I am so blessed and thankful for all of my friends! Surround yourself with loving people who want the best for you don't isolate yourself from getting to know new people because you never know who God has in place to bless your life. I've developed sisterhoods that are amazing! Evaluate the people you have in your life often and make any adjustments you need in order to stay focused!