Wedding season is ending and we are entering engagement season. I think I saw at least four engagements on my timeline this weekend and I am so excited and happy for them! I realized that it's also the season for those"Hey big head" "I miss you" text and if you're not careful you'll fall for it! We've made it to the last month of 2018 and this is a time of reflection for many it's also a time of feeling alone and depressed. Pressure to get to that next level and have all the things you desire can bring on anxiety if you let it. One of the things I've realized even in my own life is sometimes we are the source of our own cycles because we keep going back. Some people should not have any access to you because if they do you know if they catch you on a bad day you'll fall for it and end up heartbroken all over again. I'm speaking from experience because I've done it. Maybe you're thinking about reaching out to him or maybe he reached out to you I want to give you some advice stop going back!
I remember how I kept breaking my own heart because I thought things would change. I thought he loved me and he would realize just how valuable I am but the problem was I didn't see my own value. A Queen respects her crown and walks away from those who don't. I allowed myself to be wrapped up in him that I lost my value of self. Love doesn't hurt. You can glory in struggle love if you want to but that isn't the love God has for you! Perfect love cast out all fear so why are you so afraid to let what's not good for you go? Queen, it's time for you to break the cycle and set yourself free! The only way you can do that is if you make the choice that enough is enough! How much more of your time does he need to waste before you realize he just doesn't care? You have to know your worth and add Federal and State taxes! You are the prize Queen! You have to stop searching for someone to fill a void in your life and learn to really love yourself.
The woman then you're becoming requires your complete focus and respect. If you don't respect and honor your own crown why should anyone else? It's unfair to place an expectation on someone else that you are not following yourself! How can you expect a man to love a version of you that you don't even know? You've been giving pieces of yourself and wondering why you feel so broken. Queen, it's time for you to take back your power and reign! I want you to look yourself in the mirror with no makeup and really love what you see. I want you to know that going back is not honoring the royalty within you! Stop going back! Going back is distracting you from the purpose and plan that God has for you! If you've been struggling make the choice to stop going back!