Just as the trees shed when the seasons are changing you will have to do the same. The reason why some things are being held up in our lives is that we won't release those people, places, and things that aren't helping us become better. Just as the leaves fall to prepare for a new season we must do the same with our lives. We must prepare for what we pray for and ask God to guide us along the way. I can't promise you that it's going to be easy in fact it's not. It's going to be extremely hard and challenging but it will be worth it all in the end. Holding on is hurting more than helping and when you refuse to let go you end up doing more harm than good. Letting go can be scary because you're taking a step into the unknown but holding on dead things will only kill you. It can be a relationship, friendship or business partnership. If things aren't flowing you're forcing it and we all know how depressing it is to force things to fit. I want to challenge you to do a heart check of these three areas in your life and ask yourself should I release this?
1) Relationships.
Relationships are the currency of life. Who you have around you can help you or hurt you. You are like the five people you hang around and if you're around people that do not inspire, uplift and correct you when you're wrong you might need to release some relationships so you can move on and become better. I've seen beautiful queens lose their self-confidence because they were involved in the wrong relationships. The wrong romantic relationships can delay your destiny and even change it. The wrong friendships can harm your purpose and leave you stuck in cycles. The wrong business partnerships can harm your brand and leave you trying to clear your name. Relationships matter you need them in your life. You are not an island you can't stand on your own so you need to have peace and clarity with the relationships you are involved in. Do you match? Do you support each other? Can you correct each other in love? Are you able to have fun and enjoy each other's presence? You need people in your life who not only want to see you do well but help you along the way.
2) Your motives.
What is your why? Are you doing what you're doing because of your purpose or are you trying to be popular? Are you trying to prove your haters wrong? Are you doing this to make yourself look good? If your motives are wrong it will all go wrong! The only person you should be trying to beat is yourself! Competition is not what Queens do! Anything not built on a true foundation will crumble. You should be making changes to yourself to better yourself and others around you. If you're in this for your own personal gain you've got it all wrong. Your purpose is not about you! Selfish people never prosper so make sure that you're not one of them.
3) Your thoughts.
You are what you think. You have to be careful what thoughts you entertain! Some people have so many haters but the real issue is the person standing in the mirror! When you don't love yourself you will allow your own thoughts to keep you in a cycle of dysfunction. Your thoughts will make you feel like no one loves you, no one cares and have you thinking folks hate you when they aren't even paying you any attention. You have to get to the root of your issues and stop making your inner problems a problem for others. You've to get to the root of it! If you continue to carry on as you are you will not be successful. You may try to cover it up but eventually what you're hiding will come to the surface and it won't be pretty. Deal with your inner self and stop being your own enemy.
When you make the needed changes you'll see the life you desire to live. Queens aren't pitiful we are powerful! You've got to know when to let relationships go, check your motives consistently and watch your thoughts. In this season you can't afford to be caught up in the mess that doesn't help you become better. If you really want to see your life change you have to make changes. The changes you have to make won't always be easy and it's going to take some self-reflection. It is going to take you being honest with yourself and releasing things that no longer fit in your life. Release what isn't working and don't do it with any resentment because that will produce bitterness in your heart. Make the last few months of this year count. Glow up in every area of your life! Release it so you can grow!