September 2018

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When You Can't God Can!

I'm going, to be honest when I say I have had plenty of moments in my life where I felt like I could not go on. I've felt like I couldn't survive the job loss, the homelessness, the car repoed, the so-called friends turning their backs, the many no's I've heard. It's been many times where I wanted to give up, run away and do my own thing. Does life have to be this hard? Why I'm I suffering when I'm doing all I know to remain in right standing with God? Why does it seem all hell is always breaking loose in my life? Why is it that the fight is so hard? These are questions that I've asked myself over and over again. I just want to be able to take care of my son and my mom. I just want to live out my purpose and do what God has shown me I would be doing! It's been such a big fight! I've been exhausted physically, mentally and spiritually. I've been at the point where I just want to stop. Then God being God always reminds me that my purpose isn't about me! Purpose is about the lives of those he has called you to change and though it's a journey to fully walk in it you've got to know when you feel like you can't God can. You will be very disappointed if you continue to try to figure things out. I want you to share three things you can do when you feel like you can't.

1. Pray!

Prayer changes things but it also should change you! Even in the midst of feeling the pain when I cry out to the Lord, he heard me and after I pray I feel much better! It doesn't mean you won't have any emotions about the situation but when you pray without ceasing you know God is near. When you pray God's word back to him he is obligated to respond. You have to know God's word and hide it in your heart.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
Philippians 4:6

2. Be Stil!

Literally be still. Do nothing. Stop trying to figure it out. Stop trying to know what's going to happen. Stop trying to make a way because it won't be God's way. Trusting God will require you to get rid of you! It will require you to surrender! If you're serious about living out God's purpose for your life you have to stop trying to make things happen for yourself. Allow God to elevate you! Allow God to promote you! Allow God to do it so no one else can get the credit not even you!

“Be still, and know that I am God! I will be honored by every nation. I will be honored throughout the world.”
Psalm 46:10

3. Worship Don't Worry!

Worship your way out of this! Put on some music and sing yourself happy! Worship isn't just a song and dance it is my lifestyle. I have had to sing myself out of some dark times! Instead of spending time worrying about the details and how things are going to play out trust God and in the meantime praise him in advance for it already being done! Praise confuses the enemy! Praise shows God that you completely trust in him. He will also keep your mind from thinking thoughts that are not like God. So don't worry just worship!

To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified.
Isaiah 61:3

Prayer, being still and worship have been essential to me not losing my natural mind while building my Queendom. I have had so many ups and downs over the last three years I know I have a purpose because of how hard these challenges have been. I'm not ashamed to say I go through things too. I've learned that my will has to die in order to be used by God. I've done a lot and I know I will do so much more and it's all by the grace of God! Don't give up in the storm! Don't give up even when you can't see a way out God is making a way for you! I am a living witness to know that God will take care of you! Everything you need can be found in him! When you con't know that God can!

Confidence - 09/24/2018
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Do Something Different!

So many times we want to see different results but we are not doing anything different. In order to see your life change, you're going to have to do something different. Doing something different can be scary because it's going to require you to get out of your comfort zone. If you were able to fix everything by doing the same things I believe things would be changed but if you're honest you just keep going in circles trying to figure out what's going on. Doing the same thing expecting different is the definition of insanity and I don't believe any of you reading this are insane so do something different so you can see something different. Over the weekend I wrote out some new goals that I need to reach weekly so I can see something different and I thought of three ways we can do something different and I want to share them with you.

1. Discipline.

This one is hard but it is so necessary it takes discipline to manage yourself but you must make this a priority. You're going to have to say no to things you might want to say yes to. You're going to have to feel the fear and do it anyways! You're going to have to push yourself like never before! It's your responsibility to get your goals accomplished. You must do whatever is necessary to accomplish them! You can not continue to be lazy and expect real results. I am on a journey to lose -50 pounds before 2018 and if I don't get up and work out and watch what I eat I will not accomplish this goal. What have you already missed because of your lack of discipline? Do something different!

2. Manage time.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day and if we don't use those hours in a productive way we will be wasting the day away. Every day you should wake up with a goal to reach. It doesn't have to be anything grand just something to check off your to-do list and will help you become closer to your goal. My goal is to study for an hour so I make sure I put that on my schedule daily so I can accomplish that goal. Time is something you can't get back and if you don't manage it you will lose it.

3. Be okay with being misunderstood.

People will not understand why you are doing what you're doing and that's okay because it's not meant for them to understand! Your goals should not be about anyone but yourself! You should be motivated from within. Even if no one claps for you clap for yourself! Stop trying to explain to everyone why you're focused on your goals! Do you boo! Old ways won't open new doors! It's okay to get out of routine and try something new! In order to see something different, you have to do something different! Don't allow others who are not on the journey of becoming their best self-stop you from being the best you can be!

When you choose to have discipline, manage your time and you're okay with being misunderstood it helps you to get clear on what you want and makes it easier to go hard for your goals! Don't be afraid to get out of your comfort zone because nothing can grow there! So something different so you can see something different!

Confidence - 09/17/2018
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Release It!

Just as the trees shed when the seasons are changing you will have to do the same. The reason why some things are being held up in our lives is that we won't release those people, places, and things that aren't helping us become better. Just as the leaves fall to prepare for a new season we must do the same with our lives. We must prepare for what we pray for and ask God to guide us along the way. I can't promise you that it's going to be easy in fact it's not. It's going to be extremely hard and challenging but it will be worth it all in the end. Holding on is hurting more than helping and when you refuse to let go you end up doing more harm than good. Letting go can be scary because you're taking a step into the unknown but holding on dead things will only kill you. It can be a relationship, friendship or business partnership. If things aren't flowing you're forcing it and we all know how depressing it is to force things to fit. I want to challenge you to do a heart check of these three areas in your life and ask yourself should I release this?

1) Relationships.

Relationships are the currency of life. Who you have around you can help you or hurt you. You are like the five people you hang around and if you're around people that do not inspire, uplift and correct you when you're wrong you might need to release some relationships so you can move on and become better. I've seen beautiful queens lose their self-confidence because they were involved in the wrong relationships. The wrong romantic relationships can delay your destiny and even change it. The wrong friendships can harm your purpose and leave you stuck in cycles. The wrong business partnerships can harm your brand and leave you trying to clear your name. Relationships matter you need them in your life. You are not an island you can't stand on your own so you need to have peace and clarity with the relationships you are involved in. Do you match? Do you support each other? Can you correct each other in love? Are you able to have fun and enjoy each other's presence? You need people in your life who not only want to see you do well but help you along the way.

2) Your motives.

What is your why? Are you doing what you're doing because of your purpose or are you trying to be popular? Are you trying to prove your haters wrong? Are you doing this to make yourself look good? If your motives are wrong it will all go wrong! The only person you should be trying to beat is yourself! Competition is not what Queens do! Anything not built on a true foundation will crumble. You should be making changes to yourself to better yourself and others around you. If you're in this for your own personal gain you've got it all wrong. Your purpose is not about you! Selfish people never prosper so make sure that you're not one of them.

3) Your thoughts.

You are what you think. You have to be careful what thoughts you entertain! Some people have so many haters but the real issue is the person standing in the mirror! When you don't love yourself you will allow your own thoughts to keep you in a cycle of dysfunction. Your thoughts will make you feel like no one loves you, no one cares and have you thinking folks hate you when they aren't even paying you any attention. You have to get to the root of your issues and stop making your inner problems a problem for others. You've to get to the root of it! If you continue to carry on as you are you will not be successful. You may try to cover it up but eventually what you're hiding will come to the surface and it won't be pretty. Deal with your inner self and stop being your own enemy.

When you make the needed changes you'll see the life you desire to live. Queens aren't pitiful we are powerful! You've got to know when to let relationships go, check your motives consistently and watch your thoughts. In this season you can't afford to be caught up in the mess that doesn't help you become better. If you really want to see your life change you have to make changes. The changes you have to make won't always be easy and it's going to take some self-reflection. It is going to take you being honest with yourself and releasing things that no longer fit in your life. Release what isn't working and don't do it with any resentment because that will produce bitterness in your heart. Make the last few months of this year count. Glow up in every area of your life! Release it so you can grow!

Confidence - 09/10/2018

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