This week the world celebrates a day of love. For some Valentine’s Day makes them feel like something is missing in their life because they haven’t been found by “the one” when in reality they are just in a different season in their life and that’s okay. Daily I see so many posts, memes and pictures about “relationship goals” yet we have no idea what those couples are going through and if they’re even happy. Social media shows us the highlight reel of everyone’s life causing us to compare ourselves to strangers on the internet. We see what they choose to share and sometimes people aren’t who they “post” to be. I’m all down for rejoicing in others celebrations and blessings because I know God’s got a blessing with my name on it and there is absolutely no one who can stop what God has for me but me. It’s time to reject the spirit of proving and learn to embrace the season we’re in. When you compare yourself you’re robbing yourself from being able to live in the moment. I want to share three reasons why it’s important to embrace your season.
1. You’re missing the moment.
The worst thing you can do is focus on what you don’t have that you neglect what you currently do have. When you’re too busy looking at what others have or what they make you believe they have you will end up missing the moment that you’re currently in. Society makes being single a curse when actually it’s a blessing. If you’ve been through enough heartache you will not settle for just anything because you know your worth. Instead of focusing on the relationships you don’t have place your focus on the ones in front of you. That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with amazing people. Spend more time focused on the people you have rather than the ones who are gone. Stop missing the moment to create great moments because you’re focused on what you don’t have. This applies to relationships, business, and your personal goals. You will continue to miss the moment when you’re focused on everyone and everything else.
2. You could be comparing yourself to a lie.
Let’s be real people fake the front to look like they have it all together when they can be falling apart. In my previous blog, I wrote about wearing a mask and how it will mess you up if you allow it. You could be comparing your single walk to someone else who’s in a relationship but behind closed doors feels lonely and aren’t happy. You don’t know the hell that person is going through to keep the image they’ve portrayed. People lie, people front and because your focus is off you’re comparing yourself to something that might not even be true. Focus on your crown and let it shine from within. The more you compare yourself the less you’re focused on what really matters and that’s your glow up! You can’t become better while being bitter about the season you’re in. You will always feel like you’re “missing out” but if you focused on your happiness instead of being jealous of what you think others have you’ll be able to embrace your season and what others have won’t bother you.
3. What God has for you is for you!
Your time is your time and it’s absolutely nothing anyone can do about it! You have to learn to embrace where you are so you can appreciate where you’re going. Who said every season of your life was going to be perfect? Who said you wouldn’t have bad days? Who said your journey was going to be comfortable and you weren’t going to have to be stretched like never before? As you are releasing the Queen within you’re going to have growing pains. God has plans for us and it’s not to harm us so why do you think the season you’re in is working against you rather than for you? If God gave you everything you wanted right now would you honestly be able to handle it? You’re single for a reason and it’s NOTHING wrong with being single! You have to relax and stop trying to force situations to work because you could be working against the season God has for you and causing yourself to stay in it longer than you should. Don’t rush the process. You will have everything God promised you but you have to trust, know and believe that for yourself.
It can be challenging seeing others be blessed with what you think you want but if it was something you’re supposed to have you will have it but in God’s timing not your own. Stop rushing to be in a season that you’re not currently ready for. I’m 31 single and though I have my moments I know I’m in the process of becoming the best version of me and whoever God has for me will be blessed and highly favored. Until then I am fully embracing this season I am in. I’m focused on my glow up in all areas of my life I have no time to miss the moment or compare myself to others because I know what’s coming is better than what’s gone and there is a blessing in the wait. I’ll wait for God’s timing and rest on his promises for my life. Don’t get frustrated in the process because if you do you’ll delay your promise. You are still a Queen even without a king. Crowns up!