Having a great support system is very important. Sometimes we try to be so strong and handle everything on our own but we are not built to be alone. It's a great feeling to be able to go to someone you trust and talk about things with. We all need someone to go to for support. I am blessed to be able to say I have amazing people in my life who support me and will be honest with me. If you find yourself not having anyone to talk to you I recommend you find an accountability partner or join The Throne Room so other women can help you when life is trying to break you down. Everyone needs someone. As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. (Proverbs 27:17 NLT) When you have real friends they become more like family and the bond becomes stronger.
Life happens and it can be difficult to go through things alone. How many people can honestly say they have true friends? When you're feeling down and out who do you call? The first person should be Jesus and you call on him with the power of prayer. The second person should be your real friend the one who will tell you not what you want to hear but what you need to hear out of nothing but love for you. It's very important to have positive, encouraging and loving people in your life. You must surround yourself with like-minded people who will help elevate you to become the best person you can be. Throughout life, you're going to need people in your life who will support you. Over time these people may change because some people come into our lives for a season but you must be open to receive the people that God is going to send into your life and learn when God is saying to let them go.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. (Ecclesiastes: 9-12 NLT)
Ask yourself these questions about your friends.
Do they like me?
Yes. You read that right! You can't be friends with someone who wants your life! You can't have friends around you who are jealous of the life you have! So many people have friends that don't even like them! They say slick comments and put a LOL after it knowing they're not joking but throwing shade. If you feel that a friend is jealous they most likely are. Communicate and if they expose themselves as being jealous you might want to disconnect. Jealousy is not the character trait of a Queen.
Do they support me?
Do the people you call friends support you? Can you count on them to spread the word about your new project? Can you call them and get sound advice? Do they show up to the things you have going on in your life? Do they celebrate you and your accomplishments? Are they bold enough to tell you when you're slipping or just watch you fall? You have to be surrounded by people who genuinely support you and not just with words but in action. Queens support Queens!
Do they gossip about others?
This is HUGE! If that person is coming to you talking about another person they call a friend you better believe they are doing the same to you! If you can't trust that the person won't go and tell all your business you may want to reconsider that person as a friend. Queens aren't petty we are powerful! Stay away from those who are petty and always have drama going on.
When you work together with people great things can happen. If you just have one person that you can connect with that is better than being alone. Don't go through the hard times alone out of fear or pride. Pride will cause all things to fail so find someone who you can trust. Within the last year, my circle has changed drastically and I'm so thankful for the beautiful, smart, talented go-getters that God has surrounded me with. These women have become more like sisters and I appreciate all of them! It's a great feeling when you are surrounded by people who push you to be the best that you can be. I am so blessed and thankful for all of my friends! Surround yourself with loving people who want the best for you don't isolate yourself from getting to know new people because you never know who God has in place to bless your life. I've developed sisterhoods that are amazing! Evaluate the people you have in your life often and make any adjustments you need in order to stay focused!