When a woman falls in love most of the time she falls hard.

She will start to change her ways to accommodate his ways and in some cases change some the things on her “list” because she sees potential in him. What happens when she’s given all she’s got and ends up heartbroken in the end? Finding love again is possible but the first place you’ve got to find it is within yourself. After a heartbreak take time for yourself and get back to loving you. When you take time to bounce back from a heartache you become stronger, wiser and better for the next relationship. You can’t love someone else when you don’t love yourself. When you fall in love with yourself you will have peace in your heart, joy with a genuine smile on your face.

I ‘ve had some hard breakups and like most women I masked it with my makeup. I painted smiles on for years but felt horrible inside. After six years of giving my all to him, I felt like if that was love then I don’t want it again. I was so broken and hurt I felt like this man took my life after I gave him a life. My son was all I had left and though I was hurting I was trying to give him my best. I had to learn to adjust to being a single mom and that took some time. I just wanted someone to love me for me. I wanted someone to make me believe in love again. I attempted to move on but I knew deep down inside my heart was still bleeding. I never allowed anyone to get close to me due to fear of it not working out.

I tried dating again but after I tried to love again I ended up in a bad relationship with a guy that I once called my friend I decided that I was done with dating. I gave up at one point I was just upset because it seemed like I was the heartbreak specialist because I kept breaking my own heart dealing with the same type of man just with a different face. I asked God to help me figure out what was in me that attracted these type of men. The answer I received was daughter it’s not them. I didn’t like that answer but I had to accept the truth I did some soul searching and found out my ugly truth. I dedicated my life back to God, became celibate, and started to chase purpose with all I had. While I was pursuing purpose I did not date, talk, or even have a male friend in sight. I wasn’t angry or bitter anymore this time I finally content with being single.

I was happy because finally I was 100% completely in love with me. I learned my strengths and my weakness. I learned my likes and dislikes. I was crushing my goals lost over 50 pounds, wrote a book and the following year co-authored my second book that became a #1 Amazon Best Selling book. I was open to love again but refused to settle for anything less than to be treated like a queen. I met someone and things started off great but some things came up and I decided that he wasn’t the one for me and I ended things very quickly. He was a good man but I know great is out there and until he finds me I’m okay with being saved, single and free. When you know your worth you won’t give discounts or try to hold on to something that isn’t working for you. When you decided to get back to loving you your life will be forever be changed. Until the man who will change my last name finds me I’m dating purpose and we make an awesome team! I know it gets tough and it can be annoying seeing everyone else post pictures of BAE but know that your day is coming but you’ve got to love you before you try to love him.